When You Have To Parent Your Ex AND Your Kids: A Conversation With A Single Mom

"there's no way for me to protect him from one day looking up and realizing how much he hasn't been there and what I can do is make sure that by the time he has to weather that realization he already has the benefit of like a stable emotional Foundation he's already developed that sense of secure attachment to the world around him and that's going to help him navigate that a lot better"

"I keep thinking a lot about like why that happens and why our sense of maternal instinct to parent our kids is seeming to like malfunction and shoot off in all of these weird and new ways at greater numbers... across the political Spectrum you just have more and more people who like that sort of sense of being ill at ease and how that intersects with your instincts to protect your kids added on top of that being just flooded and overstimulated with a barrage of news stories every day like I mean how could you not just have that those wires tripping out on all directions"

"there's no way that I can protect him from the realization as he gets older that his dad was not around and that it was a matter of choice"

"me being having my one son out of the house by the time I'm 43 is like a girl is vibing after that like we're living we're living our our happiest middle age"

"the thing is just don't expect anything to change who you are before you have kids and the dynamic of your relationship is it's going to be the same way after kids it's just going to but you're also going to be a lot more tired there's a lot more work to do and so any imbalances will be proportionately much larger imbalances they're going to feel that way"

"across the political Spectrum we're getting to a point where like someone calls you and they're like I'm from the government and you're like go yourself you know they're like absolutely not like whether or not they even believe that person's from the government they're like the last person I'm going to listen to is like the CIA click you know and it's more of like and and to your point like it can really curdle and go off in a bunch of really negative directions but on the flip side I feel like we have fewer and fewer people who are truly who feel that sense of like trembling before Authority"

"the people who remain that kind of in lock step with it I think is becoming almost more a class divide than anything else"

"this is just the first iteration of the app we're expanding it to be for siblings for people grown kids to look at their own parents charts for people to look at their own astrological makeup through the lens of like themselves as a kid like you can pull your own chart and look at your own sort of inner child stuff really just to see how your parents everything up um so no it's actually good the the version of it that we are actively building towards is for like family relationships and intergenerational Dynamics across the board"